NIGERIAN mother Seyi Joseph has successfully given birth to two children in partnership with gay father Robert under the UK's co-parenting laws that have enabled her to use his donated sperm to get pregnant.
Taking advantage of the online advertisement of sperm banks, Ms Joseph, has successfully given birth to sons Alex and Elias with her gay spouse who impregnated her through artificial insemination. Seyi, 38, who grew up in London and Nigeria, decided to pursue this course of action after plans to find Mr Right proved abortive and she realised her dream of having children was at risk. Bradford-born Seyi now raises her two kids with Robert who she attends events with and shares everything else with save for the fact that they are not sexual partners.
Co-parents are two people who want children but may not have found the one to do it with or are not able to have offspring themselves. Ms Joseph said: "I had always known I wanted to be a mum. Naturally growing up I expected to meet Mr Right, fall in love and build a family with him but unfortunately I don’t have much luck when it comes to men.
"I applied for adoption in 2003 and after a year of intense scrutiny, I was turned down on account of being too young, too single and likely to get into a relationship, so that’s when I decided to use a donor to conceive. Whilst I was trying to adopt I had read quite a lot about donor children, their feelings and experiences and about how not knowing their biological background affects their sense of identity." She then decided she wanted to meet the donor who would father her children and set up a meeting with Robert, 47, a bus driver from Luton.
According to Seyi, her African background made it imperative that a child have as much information as possible about their biological background and know their biological parents. Seyi added: "I had been in touch with quite a number of possible donors but hadn’t found someone who shared my values and who was happy to have his identity known or be involved in our children’s lives.
I was at the point of giving up when I contacted Robert and found we both have a similar outlook to life and similar views on parenting. "I was working overseas at the time so we had time to get to know each other properly via email for almost a year before eventually meeting up. Robert and I are great friends, so much so this is the longest relationship I’ve had with a man who is not a relative." They opted for artificial insemination and consequently gave birth to Alex, six and Elias, two, who live with their mother but see their father every other week. Whenever possible they do things together as a family such as going to a farm, or fair or live shows. Seyi's experience spurred a business venture as she subsequently launched website Feelingbroody.com for men and women looking for donor or fellow co-parents. Her company charges a £150 registration fee and a further £395 for those seeking co-parents.
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